Section 1.1: Acknowledging Your Current State

Start by identifying one aspect of yourself that you wish to change. Ask yourself: “Am I doing everything I can to improve this?” Write down a simple YES or NO.

Set a timer for ten minutes and list every possible action you could take to foster this change. Mark with a ? next to the actions you've already pursued. Select one unchecked action to commit to starting tomorrow.

Subsection 1.1.1: Reflection on Your Journey

Section 1.2: Overcoming Self-Deceit

Change becomes a struggle when the desire to change isn't genuine. As Eric Thomas once said, "When you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, then you’ll be successful."

We often fail to manifest our goals by downplaying their importance. That mindset must shift. You must resolve that becoming your ideal self is not merely a desire—it's a necessity.

Consider this: if you dislike what you see in the mirror but take no action, or if you feel unfulfilled in your career yet pursue no alternatives, you might not want change enough.

The Hard Truth: Stop Making Excuses

You might feel defensive as you contemplate this. It's easy to highlight the obstacles that make your goals seem unattainable. This is precisely why recognizing your current reality is challenging.

Everyone has stories that shape their identity. While trauma and past experiences are valid, they shouldn't dictate your future.

Reflect: Are you convinced that becoming the person you aspire to be is “too difficult” because of past events? Or are you using those experiences as a shield against taking action?

Each day presents a choice regarding your actions. If you continue to believe that change is "too hard" due to your past, you are choosing stagnation.

You are shaped by your history, but you are not confined by it. Letting go of your stories allows you to forge the future you desire.

The Path to Change: Actions Speak Louder

If you want to achieve your goals, it’s not your past that determines your success but your present actions.

Consider this scenario: You enter a gym and see someone with a fit physique. Whether their motivation stems from self-love or a desire for revenge doesn't change the requirement for action. They commit, show up, and get results.

Change is fundamentally about altering your actions. When you face the temptation to revert to old habits (like lounging on the couch), consciously choose a new behavior (such as putting on your workout shoes).

This five-step exercise lays bare the facts: what do you want to improve, and what actions are you taking to facilitate that improvement?

Why This Method Works

To attain the wealth, fitness, or love you desire, you must first recognize that these goals are non-negotiable. Decide to make it happen, and clarify the actions necessary to get there.

Your aspirations must no longer seem unrealistic. Review your list and circle at least one action you will initiate tomorrow.

Set reminders on your phone, use sticky notes, or create other prompts to keep this commitment fresh in your mind.

Successful individuals aren't necessarily more intelligent; they simply engage in the small, consistent tasks that align with their goals.

Once you embrace the idea that your goals are achievable and commit to making them a reality, you’ll find excitement in watching yourself succeed.

One Key Insight

This is your life, unfolding in real-time. You can either wish for a different reality or decide to pursue what you want with conviction.

Focus your energy on what truly matters. Identify what you are dissatisfied with and who you aspire to become. Then, take decisive action.

Remember, you are the only person who will accompany yourself throughout your life. Why not become someone you genuinely appreciate rather than perpetually convincing yourself that change is unattainable?