Navigating Conversations Around Infertility: What to Avoid
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Understanding Infertility Conversations
Infertility awareness week occurs from April 23 to 29, highlighting the struggles many face with this issue. Having shared my personal journey through infertility, I feel it’s crucial to discuss the best and worst ways to communicate with friends who may be experiencing this challenge. Whether you are navigating your own infertility or supporting someone else, knowing what to avoid can make a significant difference.
The Most Inappropriate Remarks to Make
While there are numerous things that can be hurtful to say, here are the three most damaging comments to avoid:
- “If it’s meant to be, it’ll happen.”
While many people hold spiritual beliefs that align with this sentiment, sharing this thought can be detrimental. It often amplifies the inner doubts faced by those struggling with infertility. Each outing can feel like a confrontation with pregnancy announcements, and the ever-present reminder of what they lack can be overwhelming. This phrase minimizes their struggles and reinforces feelings of helplessness.
- “Why not consider adoption?”
This suggestion can be incredibly insensitive. Adoption may not be a feasible or desired option for everyone. The reasons can vary greatly—financial constraints, personal experiences, or ethical concerns regarding the adoption process itself. It’s important to recognize that each individual has their own journey, and they should not feel pressured to justify their decisions.
- “Just relax. It’ll happen when you stop trying.”
This statement can be frustrating. While it’s true that some individuals conceive after ceasing to actively try, this isn’t a universal experience. Infertility is exhausting, and many undergo rigorous treatments, making the suggestion to simply stop trying both unrealistic and dismissive.
What Supportive Words to Use
Supporting someone dealing with infertility can feel daunting. Rather than offering empty reassurances, acknowledge the difficulty of the situation. Express that you’re unsure of what to say, and be comfortable with the discomfort that may arise. Let your loved one know you are there to listen to their experiences and feelings rather than offering solutions they may have already considered.
And remember, sometimes a simple hug and a warm smile can convey more support than any words could.
The first video titled "Tips on Sharing Your Pregnancy News with Compassion for those with Infertility - Dr. Lora Shahine" offers insights on how to communicate sensitive news to those facing infertility with empathy.
The second video "How To Support A Friend and Loved One Struggling With Infertility or Miscarriage | Dr. Lora Shahine" provides valuable guidance on supporting friends during tough times.
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