Two Essential Strategies to Ensure Your New Habits Endure
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Chapter 1: Understanding Habit Formation
Establishing lasting habits boils down to integrating them into your daily life. Research indicates that your ability to maintain consistency hinges on the simplicity of your new habits. According to BJ Fogg, the director of the Persuasive Lab at Stanford University, two key elements are necessary for behavior change: ability and motivation. These two factors are closely intertwined; when your skills are high, less motivation is required.
Many individuals struggle with habit consistency because they either embark on overly ambitious endeavors or pursue habits that lack personal significance. For instance, I once worked with a client whose teenage daughter was battling obesity. My client attempted to impose a strict diet on her, but the daughter had no intrinsic motivation to adhere to something she deemed unimportant.
Section 1.1: Start Small for Lasting Change
To create a habit that sticks, begin with minuscule actions. Small habits are not only manageable but also sustainable. If your goal is to exercise, initiate a routine that you can maintain even after a grueling 14-hour workday or when feeling under the weather.
Essentially, your habit should be so minor that it can be performed under any circumstance. When the action is this simple, consistency boils down to remembering to do it daily. Setting a reminder on your phone can help keep you on track.
Nevertheless, the activity must hold some importance for you. Even if the task appears trivial, a lack of interest will hinder your commitment. For example, I developed a routine of drinking a glass of water post-workout. Initially, I found water unappealing, but I learned that staying hydrated significantly boosts productivity. Thus, valuing my efficiency became the motivation I needed to maintain this habit.
Your motivation doesn't need to be monumental; it simply has to be personal. When it comes to tiny habits, having any form of motivation is sufficient to sustain them.
Section 1.2: The Power of Determination
When motivation is high, it can compensate for a lack of ability. A fervent commitment to your goal can lead to success, as your mindset becomes one of "I will accomplish this, no matter what."
This unwavering determination is a rare trait, but if you possess it, you will undoubtedly persevere. As Will Smith famously stated, "I will not be out-worked, period. If we get on the treadmill together, there's two things: You're getting off first, or I'm going to die. It's really that simple."
This mentality is effective because persistence leads to skill acquisition. The phrase "die trying" signifies the peak of motivation, but a strong desire to succeed, coupled with manageable challenges, will suffice.
You don't need to sacrifice everything in pursuit of your goals; rather, you must be willing to give up certain comforts. When I realized my aspiration to become a writer, I was prepared to make significant sacrifices. I cut back on gaming, fiction reading, and television, and even reorganized my daily routine to prioritize writing.
However, I wasn't willing to compromise my core values or my relationships. In the initial months, I didn't fully grasp what being a writer entailed, allowing myself time to reflect and learn. It was a revelation to discover that writers, in fact, write!
Eventually, I committed to writing 400 words a day, five days a week. While it wasn't always easy, it was a manageable goal given my level of motivation.
Chapter 2: Staying the Course
The first video: 3 Ways to Make Your Habits Stick
This video outlines practical strategies to enhance habit formation, emphasizing the importance of starting small and maintaining motivation.
The second video: The Ultimate Guide to Making New Habits STICK | The Mel Robbins Podcast
In this episode, Mel Robbins shares insights on establishing habits that last, discussing the psychology behind motivation and consistency.
To successfully maintain your habits, always evaluate your motivation and ability levels. By being sufficiently motivated or starting with simpler tasks, you can foster enduring habits that enrich your life.