Chapter 1: A Lesson from the Past

Reflecting on my early days as an apprentice Steamfitter/Pipefitter, I vividly remember my excitement about starting this new chapter in my career. I was paired with two seasoned journeyman Pipefitters, who I believed would guide me like Yoda guiding a young Luke Skywalker. However, my enthusiasm quickly turned to disappointment.

They were not the mentors I had hoped for; instead of sharing wisdom, they lamented about their struggles, often appearing bitter and discontent. It was as if they had succumbed to the dark side of their profession. Their complaints ranged from issues with the government to frustrations with management, and they even shared personal grievances about their home lives.

As an apprentice, I felt compelled to listen and remain silent, but after enduring a full day of their negativity, I couldn’t hold back any longer. I asked them, “Given all the issues you’re discussing, what actions do you take to change these situations?” To my surprise, they responded in unison, “Nothing, it is what it is.”

At that moment, my disappointment deepened. I had hoped for guidance and inspiration but found only resignation. I realized that if this was the future I faced, I needed to reassess my path. By the end of my shift, I resolved to become the opposite of those two: proactive, engaged, and determined to shape my future.

The phrase “it is what it is” has become prevalent in our conversations. Often perceived as surrendering to circumstances, it reflects a mindset that lacks agency and a desire to influence one's fate. Such a mentality can lead to passivity, suggesting that one’s circumstances are unchangeable, thus discouraging personal responsibility.

While it’s true that not all situations can be altered, using this phrase as a catch-all response can prevent individuals from seeking ways to improve their lives. It perpetuates the belief that external forces dictate one's destiny, leaving no room for personal agency.

In contrast, those who actively engage with life are more likely to see challenges as opportunities for growth. They adopt a growth mindset, motivated to explore alternatives and create positive outcomes, even in tough situations. Such individuals are proactive in their endeavors, seeking solutions rather than accepting the status quo.

This phrase can also serve as a protective shield against potential failure. By adopting a mindset of “it is what it is,” one may avoid the emotional investment needed to strive for improvement. However, this approach can impede personal growth and the pursuit of dreams.

Chapter 2: Rethinking Complacency

Ultimately, the phrase “it is what it is” may appeal to those who prefer a passive approach to life. While accepting certain realities is necessary, maintaining a balance between acceptance and active engagement is crucial. Life is a dynamic journey filled with challenges and opportunities, and taking an active role can lead to a more satisfying existence.

I often ponder how different the careers of those two journeymen might have been had they embraced a more active approach to life. Although “it is what it is” may provide temporary solace, it’s essential to consider whether it serves as a barrier to personal growth and the pursuit of aspirations.

Here are six proactive questions to foster a solution-oriented mindset instead of resorting to “it is what it is”:

1. How Can I Learn from This Experience?

   This question promotes self-reflection and growth, encouraging an analysis of setbacks to glean valuable lessons.

2. What Can I Do to Improve This Situation?

   Focus on actionable steps to enhance circumstances, shifting from passive acceptance to active problem-solving.

3. Who Can I Collaborate With to Overcome This?

   Collaboration can be powerful; reaching out for advice fosters teamwork and shared responsibility.

4. What Creative Solutions Can I Explore?

   Thinking outside the box can lead to innovative approaches to challenges, uncovering new possibilities.

5. What Resources or Support Systems Can I Utilize?

   Identifying available resources empowers individuals to seek guidance and assistance in overcoming obstacles.

6. How Can I Turn This Challenge into an Opportunity?

   Viewing setbacks as chances to grow encourages a mindset shift, allowing for exploration of new paths.

By integrating these questions into daily life, anyone can take charge of their circumstances, paving the way for personal and professional development.

Thank you for reading.