Embracing Aging: Rejecting the Stereotypes of Growing Older
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Chapter 1: Understanding Aging
What does it truly mean to "embrace aging"? The idea of being old should not define who you are; rather, it indicates a acceptance of societal clichés surrounding age.
Recently, there has been a surge of articles urging individuals to "embrace" the process of growing older. While it is important to accept certain aspects of aging, the specifics can vary widely among individuals. Some aspects are within our control, while others are not. However, the notion of "being old" should not form the foundation of anyone's identity.
One thing that frustrates me is the commentary surrounding WNBA star and Olympic champion Diana Taurasi. At 42, she continues to excel, scoring 15 points in her latest game. Yet, the recurring phrase is, "She looks great… for 42." The truth is, she would shine at any age—22, 32, or beyond. It’s time to move past these comparisons.
Physical Changes and Genetics
Our appearance changes as we age, influenced by genetics, sun exposure, and personal choices. For example, extensive sun exposure can alter skin texture, while heredity plays a significant role. Additionally, hair dye and cosmetics can enhance appearances.
Health Risks Associated with Age
As we age, the probability of developing certain health conditions increases. However, medical issues can arise at any age; for instance, arthritis can affect teenagers. The key is acknowledging heightened risks, which can depend on genetics and lifestyle choices. I recall an 81-year-old woman who defied expectations: she chain-smoked, did little exercise, and had lost most of her family to heart disease, yet remained remarkably healthy.
How much of your lifestyle are you willing to modify to extend your life? That’s a personal decision influenced by your values and beliefs about health.
Social Group Dynamics
Age is often arbitrarily linked with various activities. Sometimes, this association holds true. For instance, Jane Fonda trains with a specialist for individuals over 50, showcasing her long-standing commitment to fitness. There comes a time when certain exercises may become less suitable, but this can vary widely among individuals.
Once, I was encouraged to join an improv class designated for those over 45. I asked what the class entailed—games or scene work? For me, the nature of the class matters more than age. Some may prefer to engage with peers of similar age, but I find that puzzling.
A writer once mentioned his therapist suggested a "seniors group." The purpose of such a group seemed unclear. Is it for discussing feelings about aging or shared experiences? Why not focus on topics that enrich our lives? My book club includes members from their thirties to their eighties, proving that age should not dictate our interests.
There are certain misconceptions about aging that we should challenge, as I discuss in my book. For instance, society often assumes that individuals over a certain age cannot engage in specific activities, perpetuating the notion of deficits.
While waiting for a ride-share, I've had strangers approach me, asking if I need assistance or if I'm lost. This has occurred multiple times, with well-meaning individuals offering help to disembark from public transport. Such interactions can be problematic and even risky.
I refuse to accept these assumptions or derogatory terms like "geezer." If a doctor says, "You can expect that at your age," I remain skeptical. It's disheartening when people commend me for attending barre classes, as I strive to stay fit out of personal motivation, not age.
Aging brings us closer to death, and perspectives on mortality vary greatly. Some choose to focus on longevity, while others do not. Fear of death affects individuals differently, and serious illnesses can alter one’s outlook on life at any age.
People hold diverse views and sentiments regarding their later years. Some wish to reminisce, while others prefer not to. Accepting the label of "old" is often the first step toward internalizing stereotypes, but why is this concept necessary?
I’ve explored similar themes in other articles, discussing differing opinions on longevity from experts like Peter Attia and Ezekiel Emmanuel. One of my recurring themes is that living longer is akin to a modern-day Pascal’s Wager.
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